They say society is reflected in the art it creates and I pray they don’tconsider these TV shows because if they did, well then god help us.
Welcome to our ongoing series appropriately titled Subtle Curry Traitswhere we bash on our Indian Daily soaps and try to analyse their impact onIndian Zeitgeist, and of course have a little fun along the way….
Firstly, let’s talk about the women in these shows and their portrayalin them because I can’t be the only one who finds them fucked up, not tomention outdated. Almost like every actress is typecasted.
Something to think about, isn’t it?
Let’s start with housework, no matter how rich andlavish the household is, the women always cook. They could be living in alavish bungalow with a dozen servants but no, the cooking is to be done by theladies of the house and its mandatory to do it with a full face of makeupplus the over the top eyelashes and not a single crease in their sarees afterfinishing. Because how else will we portray our women if not with unattainablelevels of *natural* beauty and perfection.
But housework is not the only duty of a woman.According to Indian soap, making the husband feel like a man of the house isalso our job, which is really quite easy. All you have to do is be verysubmissive, obedient, earn less than them (obviously) and be ready to sacrificeyour career and basically any aspiration you have when the man wants a childand yes, yes it has to be boy. While the set of guidelines for being a trophywife are set (and are quite rigid by the way) the same doesn’t apply to men.They could be drunks, physically abusive, or just down right psychopathic andthe wife is still expected to stand by him, because that is what obedient wivesdo. “Marte dam tak aapka saath dungi”
While we are still on the subject of relationship,there is only one other relationship important in your married life, the onewith your mother in law. This feat accomplished is easier said than done. Themother in law will set a series of tasks, and only if you pass them will shesee you fit for the title of ‘aadarsh bahu’ which basically translates to Ihave no life apart from my husband and family, and definitely don’t have avoice or opinion of my own.
(“You get it by now”)
Honestly in these stories, women are more capableof coming back to life after dying multiple time than actually stringing acoherent sentence together in defence of themselves.
Now while we’re at it, how can we forget the ageold tradition of pitting one women against the other, because there is no back-storyunless one woman hates the other. Thank you for making us realise that thebiggest threat to women, are indeed, women. Because how else are we supposed topass time, if not by bickering and tearing each other down. The men obviouslydon’t partake in this at all because they are far too busy making money andproviding for the family.
Progressive shows are something Indian televisionis happily oblivious to, we pretend they don’t exist just like every otherhousehold problem that we are taught to ignore. They tell us that people wholove us are allowed to hurt us, that an over ambitious women will be a badmother, that consent is not needed if you’re married. But most importantly youdon’t talk about your problems at home, because every family is a Hum SaathSaath Hai family in India even if on the inside its all Kapoor and Sons.
The crux of my point is this:-
“Kar ke mat aa”
(Obviously directed at the people because of whomthese shows see the light of day)